Let’s dive deep into Andrew Tate and if your partner is like him… The notion that men must be robust, emotionless, and dominant to be considered “men” is toxic masculinity. The #MeToo movement, which forced a discussion about sexual harassment and violence by influential men, was centered on it.
Toxic masculinity doesn’t always result in violence; it can also manifest itself subtly in social situations and even in relationships that appear to be loving. It might not even be on purpose. Since these toxic masculinity standards are ingrained in how we view “masculinity” in the US, men and masks people may exhibit these traits without even being aware of them.
Although many men take pride in their masculinity, they often victimize themselves in the process, damaging their relationships with their families, coworkers, and even their partners. The effects of this socially constructed masculinity may go unnoticed in our daily lives. Still, toxic masculinity is a severe issue that needs to be addressed before it becomes the source of all the other problems and undermines the very fabric of our society. By no means are toxic men a novel idea, but social media has made it possible for them to be more prevalent than ever.
Consider Andrew Tate as an example. The “alpha” concept, loved by some and hated by others, has its roots in the 1960s and 1970s when scientists became fascinated by the wolf pack structure.
The expression quickly gained currency in popular culture as a way to denote a strong, domineering man. Like many of today’s toxic internet alphas, the research has since been criticized for being outdated. However, this hasn’t stopped many influencers such as Andrew Tate from boosting and promoting these notions of toxic masculinity, which is ruining and affecting many of today’s relationships, causing many problems and unfairness within.
Who is Andrew Tate?
A 35-year-old social media influencer and former kickboxer, Andrew Tate is the creator of Hustler’s University. This online community teaches its “students” how to become wealthy quickly by providing advice on stocks, cryptocurrency, affiliate marketing, and copywriting. Andrew Tate is a British-American born in Chicago, according to his website cobratate.com. He is the son of chess champion Emory Tate and a commentator for Romania’s biggest MMA promotion, Real Xtreme Fighting. Tate was born in Luton and currently resides in Romania. Tate’s profile has recently soared, even though he has been well-known for a while.
The Guardian claims that this is because Tate’s supporters and Hustler’s University members were urged to post videos of Tate on social media in large quantities and choose the most contentious ones to increase engagement. Tate has made overtly violent and misogynistic remarks in such videos, and it is clear from these that he views women as the property of men. Tate’s comments can potentially radicalize men and boys, domestic abuse charities like White Ribbon have warned.
Tate had 4 million Twitter followers, 4.7 million Instagram followers, 768,000 YouTube subscribers, and videos tagged with his name reportedly had billions of views before being banned from several social media accounts.
When Andrew Tate competed on Big Brother UK’s 17th season in 2016, that is when he first gained notoriety. He was sent home from the Big Brother house, though, due to offensive tweets he had sent to the public and an explicit video showing him using a belt to hit a woman. Tate and the women have denied any abuse and asserted that the clips only depict consensual sex. Tate had established himself in the kickboxing community before appearing on Big Brother. According to his website, he is a four-time world champion in ISKA kickboxing and won his first ISKA kickboxing title in 2009.
Tate has gained notoriety on social media for his extreme opinions and has made guest appearances on a few podcasts. Andrew Tate has been expelled from Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube for making offensive comments and breaking the platforms’ rules. An official from Meta, the company that owns Facebook and Instagram, confirmed that they had permanently banned Tate from the media after breaking the rules regarding potentially dangerous groups and people.
What is Toxic Masculinity?
Unhealthy behaviors are glorified by toxic masculinity. The idea that men should treat their bodies like machines by sacrificing sleep, exercising while injured, and pushing themselves to the limit is known as the “self-care is for women” stereotype. In addition to making men physically push themselves to the limit, toxic masculinity prevents them from seeking medical attention. Men are deterred from seeking mental health treatment by toxic masculinity.
Mental Health Issues… Andrew Tate!
It’s possible to perceive mental health issues like depression and anxiety as signs of weakness. Additionally, toxic masculinity may emphasize that talking about one’s feelings is inappropriate for men. Increased feelings of loneliness and isolation may result from avoiding conversations about issues or emotions. Men are often less inclined to seek out assistance when they are dealing with mental health problems as a result. According to some researchers, toxic masculinity primarily consists of three things:
- The idea that men should be physically powerful, emotionally indifferent, and aggressive in their behavior is known as toughness.
- Antifeminity: This is the belief that men should reject anything seen as feminine, such as expressing emotion or taking the assistance.
- Power: This is the idea that men must strive for status (both social and financial) and control to earn other people’s respect.
Signs of Toxic Masculinity to Note Of
At this point, we should first make clear that not all men are toxic. However, there will always be those blindly adopting stereotypical role models because they think these are the only natural perspectives. They frequently learned the same thing in school and have followed the same pattern since then (as true and correct). Consequences include the possibility of toxic traits lurking even in relationships that, on the surface, seem to be incredibly loving. Sometimes, a man’s harmful qualities become apparent in the middle of a relationship. Sociologists claim that there are several signs that you can look for to identify them;
- Disrespect – The fact that toxic men treat you with no respect is likely their most noticeable trait. They place high demands on it. However, there are none left for you. They, therefore, want to project dominance and demonstrate their position as the dominant party in the relationship. Your goals, friendships, and career are all worthless in their eyes. Equality? No way, they don’t give it a second thought.
- Your needs are not essential – You are at the back of the queue. Toxic men always want to be in charge and don’t give a damn about what matters to them. They desire your subordination. You repeatedly catch yourself deciding to stay home when your partner wants you to go out with your friends. However, he has plans and would never consider staying at home with you. And in his opinion, that is correct. He has complete freedom to do as he pleases. But he’s not interested in your needs (really).
- You are the homemaker – Of course, even though this is a stereotype, nothing can stop you from taking over the household as a woman. However, this is only true if you choose to do it voluntarily. Because they don’t think a real man would pick up a broom or a wooden spoon, toxic men force the work on you. They don’t even care that you have a job; they assume that you will spoil them when they get home from work. They sleep while you work late into the night for them.
- You are a possession – You are a commodity to toxic men. What you do, wear, date, eat, and how much you weigh are just a few examples of the things they want to control. They want complete control over your life and comment on your every move. You may even be forced to perform tasks at times that you detest. Yet you permitted them to abuse you.
The man makes money – The family’s primary provider, toxic men believe, is themselves. They get a bruised ego if you make more money than them. They may even convince you to resign from your position to take care of the home and family. In this manner, they will always be able to accuse you of being the one who brings in the cash rather than them. They expect you to reciprocate by showing them the utmost gratitude. They’re trying to make you dependent on them once again with this.
- Gaslighting – Toxic men can talk you into almost anything they want because they can manipulate you into doubting your judgment. They purposefully spread lies in your mind, naturally in their favor. You are utterly irritated, unsure of what is right and wrong, and toxic men take advantage of your confusion. Then, while holding the strings in their hands, they pose as rescuers of the distressed.
- Extreme anger – Yes, everyone gets angry occasionally. However, toxic men surpass this point when their offense is no longer justified. They turn hostile, try to intimidate you, and may even physically assault you. No matter how difficult it is, seek assistance if you become a victim of violence. Numerous avenues of communication exist, including anonymous hotlines for help.
- You hesitate to express your opinions – Toxic men are perpetual naysayers. You feel so insecure due to this that you are unsure of how to act around them without offending them. But you also hesitate to speak with them for fear that things will get heated. Tell your partner that you’re unhappy and claustrophobic right now. Without a doubt! You can’t take the risk of doing that. You know that he would mock you, belittle you, and perhaps even bully you. Therefore, you’d prefer to apologize immediately after attempting to address a problem, make love to your toxic husband, and then withdraw.
Know the Signs
His crude and sexist perceptions of women and relationships have drawn attention. The self-described “Alpha Dog” and “Bad Boy” have unusual opinions on relationships, masculinity, feminism, and other social issues, which have leaked into many relationships and divided couples. These signs and red flags must be looked at when involved with someone.
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