Parental Advisory png for existing AND first-time parents! Parenting is a wonderful journey, but of course, it does come with bumps and turns. Navigating through these hurdles for the first time or even as a veteran parent can be tricky. There are tricks of the trade passed down by anyone willing to offer advice, but the truth is that every child and also every parent is different. This is why no two relationships or bonds are the same, and every family has its quirks and methods.
There are thankful guidelines that can help new timers to find their parenting style and base lessons on these tips. Most babies and children require very similar schedules and needs, and no matter the child, they still need the basics, food, clothes, education, sleep, and playtime. How do we know what is the right way to provide these to them? History has taught us many positive and negative ways of handling these necessities, and it’s up to the parents to decide which is most applicable to their situation and way of life. An important aspect of parenting is making sure your child is healthy and happy, and sometimes we a little or big nudge in the right direction to determine what will be the best for them.
What to Avoid Doing as First-Time Parents
Over the years, more and more home remedies have come to the surface, unconventional tricks, and wives’ tales that have flooded all areas of parenting. Some are blatant enough to morally or instinctively know that they are wrong, and some are less obvious. Thankfully we can rely on the internet and books to learn what is right and what is wrong, but surprisingly they may also not have all the answers, and experience will trump these sources.
Everybody raises their children differently, and each generation has its own set of tips and tricks. We may trust these as we like to believe that old remedies are safe, tried, and tested, but as science and research have developed more and more, these methods have almost all been debunked. So you may be left wondering, what can I trust to be correct for my baby? Luckily there are some solid facts and information that you can comfortably incorporate into your parenting and which will help you through this exciting and confusing time. Before we get into these, let’s focus on what should be left off of your preaching list, as this can either cause or lead to negative effects on your child;
- Car seats may seem like an obvious one, but many first-time parents mark this as not a priority. Last minutes things can cause many hurdles, as some car seats are tricky to install. Not to mention you may purchase the incorrect one as there are tons on the market. When shopping and installing the car seat, it is best to speak to a professional, as your infant will need a lot of support and safety when traveling.
- Sleep time may sound simple, but you may be surprised to learn that around 3500 babies die from sleep-related incidents every year. You may have been told by those around you that it’s okay to put your baby to sleep on their side or stomach, but this is a massive risk of SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome). Put your baby down flat on its back and make sure there are no obstructions in its crib. It may seem sweet or comfortable to have teddy bears, pillows, or blankets in there to keep company, but a 39% decrease in SIDS was shown after parents stopped doing this and made sure to put their babies down to sleep on their backs.
- Burping and taking time to properly burp your baby can be very beneficial and help to relieve painful winds that can keep your baby up and make them uncomfortable. Not burping can also make them gag and spit up, which can be dangerous when they are lying down. As first parents, it may be a little nerve-wracking, and new feeding your infant and burping may slip your mind, but it’s important to make it a habit to pre-burp and make sure to get rid of all winds post-feeding.
- Tummy time, after becoming a parent, you may be feeling overwhelmed with new responsibilities and figuring out a new system, not to mention all the advice swirling around in your head. This can make you leave out or skip the real important tasks at hand. Like focusing on tummy time, you may have been told that it’s not an essential activity or that your baby is too young, but this is all false. Tummy time can start right after birth, and the only thing you will need to change is the time your little one spends on their front. As they age, the time will increase. It’s a very vital part of their development.
- Fevers, if your baby is under 3 months, shouldn’t be overlooked no matter what non-professional advice you’ve been given. If your infant runs a fever of 100.4°F or higher, you must take them to see a doctor immediately.
- Crowds it’s best to avoid large gatherings or crowded places with your newborn, especially during the flu season. It may seem a bit extreme, but for their first months of life, their immune system is not very strong, and taking them into these situations can put them at risk of getting sick.
Tips For New Parents
Learning your way back to normal after a newborn is not easy because your life will never be the same again. There is a new variable in the picture now! Being a parent is a blissful and fulfilling job with some stress and uncertainty weaved in between. With studies and reliable sources, new parents can rest assured as their confusion will be met with adequate answers, and methods are available to help with difficult situations. Here are some tips and tricks that new parents can rely on;
- Normalize stress. You can’t expect to be a pro off the bat. Being a parent is a learning experience, and no matter how prepared you were before birth, once your baby is here, it’s a whole new ball game. Expect that there are going to be times you feel stressed or overwhelmed, and devise solutions and coping mechanisms beforehand.
- A parent group is an excellent way to connect with other parents going through the same ups and downs as you. It can help you feel like you’re not alone and provide reassurance. Support is a key factor in new-time parenting, and joining a parent group will give you the non-judgemental support you need.
- Accepting a helping hand, new parents will often feel the need to do everything themselves and be wary of others. It’s a feeling of wanting to prove that you’ve got it all down, but in reality, struggling is a normal part of parenting. When a friend or family member offers help with anything, whether it be dishes, cleaning, or taking your little one so you can rest or shower, accept it. If you’re comfortable with the person offering their assistance, then take the chance to recharge, as parenting can be very tiring.
- Forgiveness, you’re only human and can only do so much. Everyone is different, and you may feel less than when looking at other parents who seem to be doing better than you. You shouldn’t let this overshadow all you are doing and have done. If you slip up or feel like you aren’t doing all you hoped to be, forgive yourself and remember that you are trying your best, and that is all your baby needs.
- Ask questions, don’t feel shy, and take the idea of judgment out of your mind. Asking questions is how we learn as people and parents and if you aren’t sure of something, then ask whoever you can.
- Don’t forget about yourself. This is a big mistake many new parents make. You need to be in good condition to properly look after your little one so remember to take care of yourself too.
A Whole New World
New parents will not always have all the answers, but thankfully some sources can provide great advice and information to help guide them through this time.